Even though we have self-driving vehicles and robots with emotions now, we still treat some subjects regarding sex with reservation. Fetishes are either demonized or simply ignored because of personal perceptions and lack of research in the field of sexology, particularly on fetishes.

There are opposing views online and even in some literature about fetishes and whether one can get rid of them. Then, there’s the debate about whether one even needs to get rid of it.

You will find more information about fetishes below in this article.

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Many individuals with one or more fetishes often feel ashamed and feel the need to get rid of it somehow. It can be extremely difficult to do so on your own and very often this will require the help of a qualified therapist. We recommend subscribing to Betterhelp instead of looking for a therapist offline and pay a hefty price. To start, simply fill out this questionnaire and you will be matched with the best therapist for your fetish and or sexual obsession.

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How to Get Rid of a Fetish?
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What is a Fetish?

A fetish is the sexualization of a body part or an object that helps the person achieve sexual gratification. In simpler words, a fetish refers to the presence of a body part or object in reality or in the mind that allows the person to orgasm.

Fetishes usually involve objects that aren’t usually seen as sexual or sexy. However, many fetishes also involve objects that have over time become sexual, so to speak. For instance, getting aroused by feet, stockings, or corsets is a fetish, which is pretty common.

The traditional definition of fetish limits the arousal to objects or body parts only. Fetishes can also involve experiences or roles during sex. Bondage, dominance, or submission activities during sex can also be characterized as fetishes.

What Causes Fetish?

The jury is still out on what exactly causes a person to have a certain fetish. There’s a serious lack of research in this particular area, which is why so many of the questions are still unanswered.

Some experts agree that fetishes are something that develops during childhood, so they are innate, in a way. In fact, they become an important part of the person’s sexuality as they grow up.

There’s also the debate about mental illnesses being linked with fetishes. People with unusual fetishes may or may not have a mental illness. It’s not necessary that the mental illness has caused the fetish, especially if it predates the onset of the mental illness.

As said, fetishes usually develop in the early stages. So someone with a fetish who is diagnosed with a mental condition later in life may not have the fetish because of a mental issue.

On the other hand, some psychologists, especially sexologists, may view unusually bizarre fetishes as a symptom of a mental illness.

In an Indian study of a case of fetishistic transvestism (dressing as the opposite gender for sexual gratification), the onset was linked to mental retardation. 

All that said, many experts believe that fetishes can also emerge as a result of life experiences, especially traumatic experiences.

Can You Get Rid of a Fetish?

Before we even talk about how to get rid of a fetish, let’s first discuss whether it’s even possible to do so. There’s a growing consensus in the psychologist community that fetishes are such an integral part of sexuality that it’s not possible to get rid of them.

In fact, some experts even think of it as unethical to try to get rid of a fetish that doesn’t harm anyone and allows the person to have a fulfilling sex life in their privacy.

On the other side, there are psychologists and sexologists, in particular, that claim that fetishes can be eliminated. Many of them use some extreme methods to get their clients to control their sexual urges and fetishes.

Unfortunately, there’s not much research evidence to support either of the possibilities that whether one can get rid of a fetish, by any means.

Part of the reason many people with fetishes want to get rid of is that they feel ashamed, particularly, because of the negative sex culture that doesn’t take long to put down anything that is unconventional.

It comes down to the exact fetish you have, what it is, how it affects you, how it affects your partner, or how it affects other people.

The answer to the question of whether or not you can get rid of it may just lie in therapy.

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Can You Get Rid of a Fetish with Therapy?

If you have a fetish and you feel the need to suppress it, or perhaps it’s causing problems in your sexual relations, the best course of action is to seek therapy.

A qualified sex therapist can help you with your problem the right way. They will first assess your situation, particularly the fetish in question and how it impacts you and your partner. They may also talk about other areas of your life to see how your fetish may or may not be connected with them.

Most importantly, a therapist can help you understand your fetish, in particular, and your sexuality, in general. Not all fetishes are harmful, but it’s the stigma attached to having one in the first place that often puts people at unease.

That said, some fetishes may be unethical or dangerous, which may warrant efforts to control them and ultimately get rid of them. Whether you can even do that depends on multiple factors, but one thing is certain that therapy is your best bet in this regard.

Your therapist will ask important questions that will get to the bottom of the matter, helping you understand why your fetish bothers you and whether it should even be bothersome.

There are no specific therapies for fetishes, but depending on your unique situation, the therapist may utilize different types of therapies.

Searching for the Right Sex Therapist

When dealing with fetishes, it all comes down to which therapist (sexologist) you choose. Unfortunately, even after having qualifications and certification, some sexologists can be sex-negative and be influenced by the societal views of fetishes.

To help you process your fetish and sexual fantasies better and even control them to some extent, a sex-positive therapist is a right choice.

They will base their approach on the available research and literature. But more importantly, they will make you comfortable enough to be able to talk and explore the fetish.

If your fetish, whatever it may be, harms you or any other living being, the therapist may devise a course of therapy for you that may be able to help you.

The first step is finding the right therapist, and the second step is actually opening up to them and being honest. Both these steps have their challenges, but therapy is the right way to understand, treat, or eliminate a fetish.

Bottomline

The fact of the matter is that a fetish may be hard or even impossible to get rid of. However, you first need to determine whether your fetish is even a problem that you need to resolve. A sex therapist can help you with all of this, giving you the opportunity to understand the role of the fetish in your life under a magnifying glass.

Take your time to find a sexologist that matches well with you. It may take a few sessions for you to be more comfortable and also understand how they work.

Josiane Camilleri

Josiane Camilleri

Professor

Writer for Therapy Hunter as well as psychology
professor at Malta University.

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